Sometimes it’s not sharing your feelings that makes it hard for your feminine partner to know the effect she has on you.
Men can be so stoic, so accustomed to not saying what they’re feeling… and I think it can hurt a man’s impact with his partner.
Let me give you an example: When women sexually shame men, by saying things like “You have a one-track mind,” men usually don’t say anything. Often they laugh, nervously.
Men are so accustomed to these moments, they seem almost normal. As does burying their feelings.
Not saying anything, in a weird sense, conveys to a woman that you don’t feel her stings.
And if she thinks you don’t feel those stings, she might try to sting you a little harder, to get you to feel her.
On the other hand, when you say “Hey it hurts when you say that. It really feels bad,” she suddenly realizes that her words are felt. This causes her to want to be kinder and gentler toward you, more circumspect about what she says.
Part of the problem is that men often feel they need to be impenetrable. And, frankly, I don’t think it helps foster greater intimacy.
Tell your partner when she hurts you. It will make her want to be a better woman around you!