I’ve been wondering for years why every male client I talk to says that his love language (from The 5 Love Languages book) is touch.
I have a theory about this.
I think that a man’s “love language” can be affected by his cultural conditioning.
I suspect that most men say “touch” is their primary love language, because the other FOUR options don’t seem manly enough.
The other FOUR are: words of affirmation, gifts, quality time and acts of service — all of which are received.
Touch is received, too, but, because it’s a precursor to sex, likely feels like the a more manly choice.
Men are trained to be bad at receiving. They’re taught to think that a real man should need nothing — not attention, time, support, or approval.
So, naturally, I think that most men are going to say “touch” is their primary love language, because it relates to sex, which is always manly!
This is my theory. Help me get to the bottom of this.
Do the other FOUR love languages seem unmanly to you?
And, does being touched really say to you that you are loved, or do you choose “touch” as your primary love language because you like the feeling of being touched?
Keep in mind that your primary love language should strongly speak to you that you are LOVED.